An Apology from a Woman Who Didn’t March

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I am a woman. I live in America. I did not attend a women’s march over the weekend, but I know people who did. These marches made front page news all across America and sparked lively debates on social media. It’s obvious that women in this country have vastly different beliefs and convictions. I don’t presume to speak for all women in America. I speak only for myself. But at the same time, I know I’m not the only woman who feels this way. So with that in mind, I have some apologies to make.

To the women of China, I’m sorry that we here in America are fighting for the right to abort our children while you yearn for the freedom to have as many children as you wish.

Women of Saudi Arabia, I’m sorry we push for equal rights while ignoring the fact that you have none of the freedoms we take for granted. You are told how to dress, forbidden from driving, disallowed to pursue an education, and basically treated as property.

To women in underdeveloped countries, I’m sorry that we are pushing for free health care, including abortion on demand, while you struggle to feed your families and find clean water to drink and have limited or no access to good health care.

To those women who are trafficked and abused, I’m sorry that we have ignored your plight also. You are sold into drug and sex trafficking or are victims of domestic abuse. Your rights are the ones we need to be fighting for.

Men, I’m sorry that we have disrespected you while demanding you respect us. We continually mock you on TV shows, movies, and commercials, making you out to be the idiotic male who could never survive without the help of a woman. I’m sorry that we have insisted you support our reproductive rights unconditionally, including the right to terminate your own child without your consent. I apologize for the double standard we support, finding no irony in the fact that while a woman can abort your child without your knowledge, many doctors require you to have a signed consent from your female counterpart to undergo a vasectomy. Yet if you, as a male, dare protest any of this, you are labeled a sexist, and an intolerant one, at that. I’m sorry we’ve put you in that position.

To the children in America(*), I’m sorry we are setting a poor example for you. On Friday you saw the images of protesters throwing rocks, yelling obscenities, and screaming, while you are told not to throw temper tantrums. Then the following day, images of crude costumes and signs (some of which I would consider pornographic) were displayed as part of the Women’s Marches, coupled with colorful speeches from characters like Madonna who dropped the F bomb multiple times and claimed she’d thought about blowing up the White House.

To those who marched or supported the recent marches, I understand that all of you did so for your own reasons. I dare not place all you in one blanket category. Some of you marched in protest of President Trump’s former comments about women and his views on various topics. Some of you wholeheartedly agreed with Madonna’s statements, while others were uncomfortable with them. Some of you marched for LGBT rights. Perhaps some of you marching were doing so in support of abused and victimized women, hoping to give them a voice. Some of you consider yourselves feminists; others do not. There are some of you who are pushing not only for equality, but superiority over men. Some of you carried vulgar signs and dressed up in descriptive outfits depicting female body parts. I’m sorry if any of you think I’m judging you or that I don’t care to listen to your opinion. I’m sorry if you feel undervalued by society at large or by those in your life. You are worthy of love and respect, and not just because you’re a woman, but because you are a human being.

We may be separated by language and culture barriers in this world, by our beliefs, by our own stubbornness and sinful pride, but there is one thing that unites us all- we are all created by God, and that’s what gives us worth. It is never God’s will that we hurt or mistreat one another. Unfortunately, there will always be inequality in this sinful world, and we should each do what we can to work toward  basic human rights for all, especially those who cannot fight for themselves. But even amidst the chaos of this world, I know a critical truth- my most important freedom has already been won. Jesus has freed me from sin. You- yes, you– are so valuable that Jesus died for you. No matter what you’ve done in the past, no matter what your current situation, Jesus’ love and forgiveness are there for you. That’s the message of hope and healing I want to spread. And I make no apologies for that.

 

Photo is Women’s March on Washington by Mobilus in Mobili
(*) Author’s note- I changed the original wording in this paragraph to more accurately represent the events of the weekend. I did not mean to imply that the Women’s Marches were characterized by throwing rocks. As many of you have pointed out in the comments below, the marches were in large part peaceful. 
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681 thoughts on “An Apology from a Woman Who Didn’t March

  1. Yeah, you do realize women in this country would be as bad off as these other countries if we didn’t have marches like this and stand up for ourselves.

    This is laughable. How do you think we have any rights at all?? Take a history lesson. It’s one thing to be against abortion, but to use a 100% peaceful march as an apology to repressed women across the globe for us standing up for our selves is fundamental hypocracy.

    1. And then you woke up! .Your marching did not buy you or anyone even a smear of freedom. Your freedom was paid for by men and women in or military not by a bunch of crazed women who don’t have enough sense to be embarrassed by their own actions

      1. Yes, our freedom did come from the men in the military and the women who marched for their freedoms got to enlist into the military. While marching they also gained the freedom to be a person, to vote as one, to dress as they like. Do you remember in the 50’s, skirts and dresses were the only items of clothing for women. Do you remember in the 50’s, women were looked at strangely if they worked and if they were married their husband was looked at as being lazy. A woman couldn’t buy anything on credit unless it was under their husbands name, thank you for the marches. These marches were all over the world. It is catching on all over the world. Thank you for marching.

    2. I whole heartedly agree. Women have marched since the 1800s for the right to vote and the right for equality. It should not stop so long as it is peaceful. Some of the marchers were anti-Trump for good reason. Some of Trump supporters were also there because they are now worried that his signing pen will take away their health care needs including cancer screenings, birth control, and right to control their bodies. Trump hypocritically spoke about Jesus and that may have gotten him some votes, but he probably doesn’t know any of the words in Abraham Lincoln’s bible he layed his hand on. He spews anger and negatively which is being repeated by his followers and young children everywhere. We need to stop the double standards and show our unity for our fellow citizens and our country.

      1. It’s safe to say that Jesus frowned upon the murder of unborn children yet forgives all who repent and and turn from sin.

    3. Oh. I thinks it’s you who needs a history lesson. You, as a woman, have the rights you have because of God’s sovereign plan to protect those rights (particularly in US), Christians and their organizations fighting for those rights over the last couple hundred years, and republicans who fought for your rights as well.

      1. Holy Moly…you have issues man. Women are better off because….Republicans and God??? wow

    4. Leah, Exactly what rights were they marching for ? It looked to me to be against our President more than anything else and I guess our vaginas

      1. You can’t elect a President that brags about “grabbing women by the p____” and then get offended when women dress like one.

    5. *hypocrisy. (A spelling lesson in return for your prescribed history lesson.)

      Also, there were both men and women who won your rights. It is not hypocritical to appreciate that.

    6. But it wasn’t 100% peaceful…. There were plenty of women, young girls, and boys out there that came from the inauguration. Some of those women felt that they didn’t agree with the protesters/marchers agendas, so they were treated like crap. Being called names and spat on?! Wth?!? If it truly was for women and not a march against Trump, then they should have respect enough to know that they shouldn’t spit at and call these kids names and treat them like the garbage that they left all over the streets.

      It’s shameful to think that people still act this way.

      1. Plus one of the women there who had come from the inauguration had her Hair set on FIRE by one of those so-called “Peaceful Protesters”…

        A lot of them were vulgar and the costumes were pronographic in substance.

    7. I could be wrong but I didn’t see any evidence that any of these marches represented “women across the globe.”

      No evidence of fighting for women’s rights in Saudi Arabia or anywhere else the writer mentions.

      Also, roughly half of all abortions kills a woman; why aren’t her rights being fought for?

      1. Kenya. India, Serbia, South Africa, Australia, Peru, Georgia (the country..as I don’t want to confuse you), UK, Mexico, Hungary, Canada, Netherlands, Belgium, Italy, Chile, Czech Republic…should I go on?

        It took me 5 minutes to find your evidence.

    8. I agree! I was actually laughing pretty much through the entire post! These things are called reductio as absudum which is reducing something to absurdity. Obviously women wanting rights and freedoms here doesn’t at all discount the issues other women face in other countries.
      Just like the issue with feeding the hungry: some people think that means poor kids in Africa who are “so much worse off” while others still think it should be a moral crime to send food to another country when we have starving children here. What it comes down to is that feminists are working for women in all walks of life in all countries and in all cultures. The issues are inumerable and complex. Shaming women who are standing up for their own freedoms is counterproductive! Love women! Support them! Try to help and be a decent person to ALL people, not just the generalized “foreign women” that this author makes reference to. especially because this apology is flat and empty. Will the author ever actually DO anything to help these women she seems to care so much about? Has she traveled to these places and marched for them? Has she tried starting charities for them? Sent any money or supplies to save these women? I’m going to guess not. So this is just feminist shaming all wrapped up pretty and pink, pretending to be moral when in reality, it’s all about hate instead of love.

    9. Marches don’t give you rights…the Constitution (our supreme rule of law) does – something those other countries don’t employ. What right are you fighting for, exactly?

      What’s laughable is your claiming the march was 100% peaceful…hundreds of photos prove otherwise…Madonna’s threat to blow up the White House proves otherwise…the vulgar signs and costumes prove otherwise.

    10. And Leah, one more thing. Before you tell me to take a history lesson, I have. Many of them. Enough to hold a Master’s degree in the subject, in fact.

    11. What was peaceful? The march… aka “riot”??? That is laughable dear as peaceful in my mind is being able to express opinion and have a debate with someone that doesn’t involve threats or acts of violence.

      Don’t you see the irony that the people that want “peace” and say how Trump is violent and crude are the ines in fact acting that way?

      What example is being set for our youth that are watching this???

    12. Um, bye. Women didn’t earn rights in this country by dressing like vaginas and whining about getting their way. YOU take a history lesson. Those matches were embarrassing to our country. While you think you’re “standing up” for your “oppression” (please 🙄), the rest of the world is laughing at how RIDICULOUS you are. Speaking of laughable ….

      1. Are you kidding? Millions of people (not just women) worldwide marched peacefully in solidarity to support equal rights. Marches and protests like these are exactly how women before us fought for the very rights we enjoy today. If the rest of the world is laughing, it’s because of the ignorant, narcissistic, unqualified piece of garbage that many of you helped elect. Good luck hanging on to the rights you currently have (and which you are using as a reason not to march) with people like him in control. It’s an affront to the strong women who came before us to be APOLOGIZING to men, or to anyone, for standing up for equality. Have some historical perspective and read a book.

    13. It wasn’t 100% peaceful as there were instances of pregnant women being knocked to the ground for being prolife. The aggressiveness of the dialogue was also not peaceful. The march did not represent all women–only those women who are anti-Trump and ascribe their “power” to being able to kill babies. Hillary Clinton did more to diminish the value of women in leadership roles than she has helped. Find more fitting role models to put on the ballot and we won’t have to settle for women like Hillary and Madonna being the faces of our cause.

      1. How so? And please provide statistics to the 500,000 present. And NOT the inauguration

        I will concede to you 99.9% because you know that .1% makes you right and that’s what’s important. 🙄

    14. We have rights because men and women fought for them. And they fought for them WITHOUT having to resort to wearing vagina hats and shirts. When that’s your platform, when that’s how you choose to present your message, you only hurt yourself and your cause. That march alienated the very group of people they were supposedly marching for.

    15. Yeah you do realize that the only thing thats laughable is that you said “100% peaceful” right?

      9+ police officers have been hospitalized after being attacked at your so called 100% peaceful marches

      The white house was threatened and people cheered

      Store fronts were destroyed

      Cars were flipped

      People were spit on for supporting trump, or had trash thrown at them. And some were attacked and beaten.

      Protesters stole from the stores that had their windows destroyed. Everything from a pair of jordans all the way to en entire cash register.

      I don’t know what you classify at peaceful but god forbid we ever have to see what happens at what you classify as violent protest or riot. Especially if this is what you think is 100% peaceful.

      And just so we are clear I am a female. I am 21 years old. I did not vote for trump. I swing more on the liberal side but refuse to classify myself as either republican or democrat. I just simply don’t see the point in throwing a temper tantrum just because Hillary didn’t get elected. Which is exactly why these marches happened. Grow up.

      1. Please provide evidence of this widespread violence at Sat march?? 500,000+ people protest give me stats and I will give you a percentage of violence to peace ratio

      2. That person claiming there was violence is confusing the peaceful woman’s march with Friday’s protests. I didn’t even see a cop on Sat until I was leaving. No one even pushed. The crowd was polite and happy.

    16. Hi, I’m sorry you feel this way, but women have a lot more rights then you must think. Being able to have a voice among others is a right. It’s a right everyone is given. Being able to wear whatever you want is a right, no matter what you think. (And yes I understand that people judge, hasn’t everyone?) Some women in other countries, as this article mentioned don’t have a voice, are told what to wear, what to do, and are kept from getting an education. Even though, this is still a time where people are stereotyped and given a name without thought, peaceful, and reasonable protest are okay. That is free speech. (Referring to peaceful and reasonable protests) Thank you.

    17. I don’t see her complaint in women’s marching or standing for their rights when felt violated. Unfortunately by watching what was happening in front of us in the media it wasn’t all peaceful. That’s the sad part. I think we could all take a lesson from MLK on how to have your voice heard peacefully without thinking you must act in anger. Anger never wins the fight in the long run. Just makes for good media ratings.

    18. in addition, when we stand up for ourselves we not only better the lives of women, men and children in the USA, but we also open doors for people who are oppressed worldwide so they can stand up for themselves. We set a standard that others can use for themselves in their own way.

    19. Please then Leah, explain where the rock throwing and burned vehicles/other things come from during this “100% peaceful march”?

    20. Leah I don’t know how old you are, but you sound young. I lived during the time that woman’s rights were “changed”. It wasn’t as easy as you think. I watched marches for women’s rights, marching for civil rights. I was born in Montgomery, my Mother’s housekeeper and care giver for my gggmother who was blind so that she could work. In fact when Granny died my Bobba and Mother took Dolly through the “White Door” of White Chappel Funeral Home and dared the owner to say a word. No one is “taking” anything away. The marches are NOT necessary. All of the fear of what Trump will do. Grow up! This is the ONLY free country in the world. Go live in some of these places, see the truth, read, educate yourself.
      Because honey the things that are coming will make your “Marches for woman’s rights” pale in comparison to what the future holds.

    21. “women in this country would be as bad off as these other countries if we didn’t have marches”
      is this a real statement?
      do you honestly believe this?
      what america do you live in? this is certainly not the america I live in as a young woman.
      And if you want to talk about a “history lesson”…what the country (men and women BOTH) did for women’s rights in the early 20th century is the LESSON. They are the ones to be admired and appreciated…please do not think that you are helping women or are a martyr of any kind by participating in these kinds of events…it is just ridiculous.

      1. I refer you to this poster’s statement below as an in depth explanation of my post. And these are not alternative fact, these are real people, women in Americas history that marched and demonstrated for US to have what we currently have. We would have none of it without them.

        “You Are Not Equal. I’m Sorry.
        A post is making rounds on social media, in response to the Women’s March on Saturday, January 21, 2017. It starts with “I am not a “disgrace to women” because I don’t support the women’s march. I do not feel I am a “second class citizen” because I am a woman….”
        This is my response to that post.
        Say Thank You
        Say thank you. Say thank you to the women who gave you a voice. Say thank you to the women who were arrested and imprisoned and beaten and gassed for you to have a voice. Say thank you to the women who refused to back down, to the women who fought tirelessly to give you a voice. Say thank you to the women who put their lives on hold, who –lucky for you — did not have “better things to do” than to march and protest and rally for your voice. So you don’t feel like a “second class citizen.” So you get to feel “equal.”
        Thank Susan B. Anthony and Alice Paul for your right to vote.
        Thank Elizabeth Stanton for your right to work.
        Thank Maud Wood Park for your prenatal care and your identity outside of your husband.
        Thank Rose Schneiderman for your humane working conditions.
        Thank Eleanor Roosevelt and Molly Dewson for your ability to work in politics and affect policy.
        Thank Margaret Sanger for your legal birth control.
        Thank Carol Downer for your reproductive healthcare rights.
        Thank Margaret Fuller for your equal education.
        Thank Ruth Bader Ginsburg, Shannon Turner, Gloria Steinem, Zelda Kingoff Nordlinger, Rosa Parks, Angela Davis, Malika Saada Saar, Wagatwe Wanjuki, Ida B. Wells, Malala Yousafzai. Thank your mother, your grandmother, your great-grandmother who did not have half of the rights you have now.
        You can make your own choices, speak and be heard, vote, work, control your body, defend yourself, defend your family, because of the women who marched. You did nothing to earn those rights. You were born into those rights. You did nothing, but you reap the benefits of women, strong women, women who fought misogyny and pushed through patriarchy and fought for you. And you sit on your pedestal, a pedestal you are fortunate enough to have, and type. A keyboard warrior. A fighter for complacency. An acceptor of what you were given. A denier of facts. Wrapped up in your delusion of equality.
        You are not equal. Even if you feel like you are. You still make less than a man for doing the same work. You make less as a CEO, as an athlete, as an actress, as a doctor. You make less in government, in the tech industry, in healthcare.
        You still don’t have full rights over your own body. Men are still debating over your uterus. Over your prenatal care. Over your choices.
        You still have to pay taxes for your basic sanitary needs.
        You still have to carry mace when walking alone at night. You still have to prove to the court why you were drunk on the night you were raped. You still have to justify your behavior when a man forces himself on you.
        You still don’t have paid (or even unpaid) maternity leave. You still have to go back to work while your body is broken. While you silently suffer from postpartum depression.
        You still have to fight to breastfeed in public. You still have to prove to other women it’s your right to do so. You still offend others with your breasts.
        You are still objectified. You are still catcalled. You are still sexualized. You are still told you’re too skinny or you’re too fat. You’re still told you’re too old or too young. You’re applauded when you “age gracefully.” You’re still told men age “better.” You’re still told to dress like a lady. You are still judged on your outfit instead of what’s in your head. What brand bag you have still matters more than your college degree.
        You are still being abused by your husband, by your boyfriend. You’re still being murdered by your partners. Being beaten by your soulmate.
        You are still worse off if you are a woman of color, a gay woman, a transgender woman. You are still harassed, belittled, dehumanized.
        Your daughters are still told they are beautiful before they are told they are smart. Your daughters are still told to behave even though “boys will be boys.” Your daughters are still told boys pull hair or pinch them because they like them.
        You are not equal. Your daughters are not equal. You are still systemically oppressed.
        Estonia allows parents to take up to three years of leave, fully paid for the first 435 days. United States has no policy requiring maternity leave.
        Singapore’s women feel safe walking alone at night. American women do not.
        New Zealand’s women have the smallest gender gap in wages, at 5.6%. United States’ pay gap is 20%.
        Iceland has the highest number of women CEOs, at 44%. United States is at 4.0%.
        The United States ranks at 45 for women’s equality. Behind Rwanda, Cuba, Philippines, Jamaica.
        But I get it. You don’t want to admit it. You don’t want to be a victim. You think feminism is a dirty word. You think it’s not classy to fight for equality. You hate the word pussy. Unless of course you use it to call a man who isn’t up to your standard of manhood. You know the type of man that “allows” “his” woman to do whatever she damn well pleases. I get it. You believe feminists are emotional, irrational, unreasonable. Why aren’t women just satisfied with their lives, right? You get what you get and you don’t get upset, right?
        I get it. You want to feel empowered. You don’t want to believe you’re oppressed. Because that would mean you are indeed a “second-class citizen.” You don’t want to feel like one. I get it. But don’t worry. I will walk for you. I will walk for your daughter. And your daughter’s daughter. And maybe you will still believe the world did not change. You will believe you’ve always had the rights you have today. And that’s okay. Because women who actually care and support other women don’t care what you think about them. They care about their future and the future of the women who come after them.
        Open your eyes. Open them wide. Because I’m here to tell you, along with millions of other women that you are not equal. Our equality is an illusion. A feel-good sleight of hand. A trick of the mind. I’m sorry to tell you, but you are not equal. And neither are your daughters.
        But don’t worry. We will walk for you. We will fight for you. We will stand up for you. And one day you will actually be equal, instead of just feeling like you are.”
        ~ Dina Leygerman, 2017

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  2. Take heart, we are no more perfect than they, but for standing up for God and trying to speak for all people (not just one minority or another), believing in Jesus, and following in His footsteps, we shall be rewarded with a home in Heaven. The Bible says put your faith in Him, not any other king or government. God Bless you and your family.

  3. I feel that this is dead on. Those women don’t speak for me. Madonna and Ashley Judd have no clue how my life is lived. They don’t speak for me. My children are not just a means to get stuff. They are my hearts. My parents made sure that I was cared for. my husband works his butt off so I can do my job. I believe in the same values that got our beautiful country through WWII! I am severely discouraged by these girls who dress as if they have no self respect. I don’t want my daughters or sons to think this is right. My son’s will respect any woman who they are with. Their father shows them how to do this! My children respect their elders. When they slip up, I am going to remind them. I will not be afraid to discipline my kids. I do this for their safety! I am a woman of Faith. I believe in myself. I love my job. This is why they don’t speak for me.

  4. Thank your thoughts. Women marched so you could make such remarks in our free United States of America. So you could have choices, rights, an education, equality. Not only you but the females in your family for fenerations to come. We do not see eye to eye but I respectfully disagree with what appears to be unappreciated privilege. Many women and men before us fought for our rights as women to vote, not be the piss soon of our fathers, husbands, sons. For the he right to work, fair wages, safe working conditions, against child labor. For good health care. Women’s rights to make decisions regarding her body and life. There was a time when money, privilege, rights, rights to the children, land, ownership, voting, believe need only to males. So yes, thank you for your thoughts. Please keep in mind that your right to do so, to voice your opinion, is because of the actions, marches, of those before us.

    1. “Women marched so you could make such remarks”… America is free because of the selfless men and women who fight to defend our country and keep it free. Not because of a group of women dressed up in vagina costumes.

      1. Thank you for bringing up this point. The men and women of the military who have served and continue to serve selflessly have won many of the freedoms in this country. My heartfelt thanks to each of them and their families.

    2. I think the women who marched are not heroines but women with a victim mentality. My mom and I recently saw the movie Hidden Figures and we are grateful for everything we have. We are grateful for all of our rights and those who paved the way for them. I think my great great grandparents who were Irish slaves in thus country would be embarrassed by the self loathing and victim mentality of those who marched on Saturday. Also, I think fighting for a right to abort your own child is extremely selfish. Yes, women have a right to make decisions about their body and they should make those decisions prior to having another human life inside of them. Abortion is one of the most selfish acts I can think of. Plus this idea about free birth control… why should the government fund your sex life?

      1. I worked on the movie “Hidden Figures” and am glad you enjoyed it, but if you’re grateful for what you have, you should at the very least understand and appreciate why you have it. The rights that women enjoy today are a direct result of the women who came before us in whose footsteps the protesters marched. Standing up for equality doesn’t mean that you are ungrateful for what you personally have, it means that you believe everyone is entitled to the same rights. And clearly you don’t understand the abortion issue very well. No one wants to be in the position to have one, but it is an extremely important right for a woman to have. Women should have the right to make their own reproductive decisions, and it’s never as simple as “making a decision beforehand.” Consider women who become pregnant from rape or incest, for example, or who discover a fatal birth defect. Should they be forced to carry a baby to term? No. If you don’t agree with abortion, don’t have one, but you do not get to make that decision for someone else. And please stop equating birth control with funding someone’s sex life. Women, especially low-income women, should have access to birth control to prevent additional pregnancies. Not to mention the many women take birth control for health reasons completely unrelated to pregnancy-prevention. It’s also ironic that the very people who want to prevent women from having access to free/affordable birth control, are also the first people to complain when those women apply for public assistance because they have trouble supporting all of their children. You can’t have it both ways while sitting on your high horse.

    3. I don’t care that you marched & did not represent many, many women. I am offended by the way you did it. Martin Luther King marched & got great results – no violence, no vulgarity, no disrespect — Just quiet proud marching. Please do not compare what happened at the women’s march as anything that was done to acquire our votes, and other “equalities”.

    4. How presumptuous and insensitive to think that these marches are what allow for women’s freedom. That seems so ridiculous to me and gives me insight into why all of the women marching perceived themselves to be doing. Please thank the men and women who served his great nation and understand where true freedoms derive from.

  5. I marched in protest response to the horrifying agenda of the new administration, not for the “right to abort our children.” I find the apology to the women of China and Saudi Arabia hollow, because after all they produce just about all the goods for sale in our hyper-consumerist society. Perhaps a boycott would be a more meaningful apology, but that might be too simplistic and problematic, because over the centuries millions of women have turned to low-paying factory work in grueling conditions to better their economic and social situations. I stopped reading when you apologized to the menfolk, bless their hearts. Again – although I’m sure my local cable company didn’t even notice – I disconnected the TV some time ago. A form of boycott of the “bread and circuses” and garbage and “alternative facts” on offer.

  6. Thank you for writing for those of us who choose to be respectful American women. Those of us in the trenches fighting the battle in a respectful way! Those of us who do not need to blame someone else or degrade someone else in order to be heard! Thank you!!

  7. It is true that women all over the world are subjected to a variety of awful injustices, but each instance is its own conversation. To say that we cannot fight for equality in America because women in other countries have it worse is unfair. If that was the measuring stick for civil rights in America how would change and progress ever occur?

  8. You write “Unfortunately, there will always be inequality in this sinful world, and we should each do what we can to work toward basic human rights for all, especially those who cannot fight for themselves.” Thus the Women’s March. Focussing on pussy-themed outfits and crude language–and rioting that happened from radicals the day before–is you only seeing a pimple on a beautiful face. Saying to women in this country, essentially, you should be grateful for what you have because at least you don’t live in China or Saudi Arabia is so, so very wrong. That’s akin to telling someone with bone cancer, at least it’s not in your brain; telling someone who is verbally abused that, at least you weren’t beat; you get the idea. Injustice is injustice. We fight to lead the way. Women marched, like you noted, for many reasons. I marched because this country elected an unqualified narcissist who is hell bent on striping health care from millions (and, yes, that includes birth control coverage, which as you know, would prevent the need for abortions); who willfully ignores (and gags) science; who wants to isolate this country; who is moving in a very dangerous direction when it comes to free press; who does not care about raising the minimum wage or wage equality; who spews lies and vitriol and misogyny on the regular. Are you really more offended by pop star and a glittery vagina on a T-shirt, than this president? I would much rather explain to my children why the lady has a vagina on her shirt than why the president of the United States calls women pigs, who jokes about assault, who makes blanket racist statements, and who simply is not a good person.

    1. So this was a Trump
      Bashing not a march for woman’s rights????? Get over yourself President Trump was Voted in by he American People due to an electoral process that has worked for us since the beginning, I don’t think your hateful words or Vulgar costumes will change that. At the time of the march Trump had been president for a whole day and a half so if you are upset with woman’s rights in America you are upset with Obamas policies not Trump’s…

    2. I don’t appreciate your callous referral to the bone cancer scenerio. Understood you are trying to make a statement, however, as a mother who is coping with a daughter who has bone cancer…Please don’t minimize my pain by using it as an example to further you’re selfish thoughts. Next time you want to make comparisons, just remember, someone reading your post is affected by that very plight.

      1. I had bone cancer as a teen–one year of chemo, a bone transplant and several surgeries. Someone actually said to my mother “at least it’s not brain cancer.” It IS callous to say–and that’s my point!

      2. I don’t think you understood the analogy. Bone cancer is horrendous, cancer for that matter is horrendous. You are in pain. You have the right to feel this way, but you have labeled her thoughts as selfish. You feel they are selfish thoughts. I think you need to rethink your reply. In my opinion your statement would be more powerful if you would have left out the selfish thought comment. Just so you know my beloved husband is currently dying of cancer. I will be lucky if he lives for the next few months, so you are not alone in being in pain.

      3. How is it a selfish thought to ask for people to be compassionate to all people and to not minimize their problems because there are other problems in the world? You’re asking her to not minimize your pain, which is what she’s asking from all of us.

        Thank you, Holly, for your comment – I am using it to address this blog on facebook and it was well-written.

    3. This right here is why you can’t have a conversation with liberals. You literally cannot level with them.

    4. Your comments make you out to be just like Mr. Trump! We call that hypocrisy these days! The lady who wrote this (Ruth) has 1 beautiful mind, if only more men & women thought alike we wouldn’t be dealing with all this drama and BS that’s been happening since the inauguration! So in regards to your comment I say it’s rather disgusting and makes you look rather stupid …..get over yourself

    5. Thank you, Holly, for expressing so eloquently what are also my thoughts on this subject. I regret that I did not march although there was a supporting march within 35 miles of my home.

    6. Holly, you absolutely nailed it. My jaw dropped at the hypocrisy of that same sentence you quoted. Ruth, I’m sorry but you are so far off base. I’m sorry that there were droves of men there with signs that said “This is what a feminist looks like” and “Men of quality don’t fear equality” and, yet, you still think it was some kind of male-bashing event. I’m sorry that those men totally get it and you don’t. I’m sorry you feel as though shaming the MILLIONS of people that do get it is the Christian thing to do. I’m sorry that you think you can just “pray about it” and everything will be OK…but I’m pretty sure God gave us bodies and brains for a reason.

    7. Holly, your reply is extremely well written. You summarized everything I believe in a better way than I have before. Thanks for sharing

  9. Thank you for stepping up and voicing, through a heart for others, an opinion on a true plight of women. We are so cared for here in the United States. Our limitations are ourselves. I apologize to you for the intolerant people who are so caught up in the rhetoric of our day they can’t allow any thought or idea other than their own. Indeed your “apology” was a left handed jab at the short sightedness of this whole issue; however, your goal of showing true women’s suffering and seeking to challenge women to care more globally was spot on. It was a great literary device. The march may have been peaceful, but it was vulgar – by their own standards and admission, It was tawdry – again, by the design of many involved. The shock factor was planned and orchestrated in defiance and ultimately disrespect. Whether I agree or disagee with them, these women “are not my women”. In hindsight, however, what did it change for the good? How much time and money was spent to throw this giant temper tantrum and who benefitted from it? Who was helped?

      1. I think if these women want more respect and to be heard then they need to respect others more and hear them out more…
        Maybe learn to agree to disagree and not try to out shout them and by being Bullys…
        This is and always will be a socialist agenda….gimme, gimme, gimme…free free free…
        Get a life folks the world does not revoke around you getting your free stuff….learn to pay your own way through life and you’ll be respected more by doing so…

  10. I’m sorry you have failed to understand the various reasons these determined individuals stood up to be heard.

    1. Oh right …. because we women have no rights in this country and we need embarrassing marches to show the world that we deserve rights. Again … because we have none?! Riiiiight. Travel the world, my friend, and you will find countries with truly oppressed women. But I can tell you, this country is not one of them.

    2. Jane Mitchem, possibly if people failed to understand the various reasons these “determined” individuals chose to march is because of the failure on their part to make their concerns clear. Very little respect & understanding can be expected by wearing p….sy hats, wearing things of a very crude nature to depict female anatomy, shouting filth & crudeness. That, to me, is NOT what women are or should be about.
      I do agree with original article that these women do not want equality, but special rights & superiority over men. There is an old quote (from somewhere, don’t remember where) that the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world. Really think about that & ponder it….I think women have had more power behind the scenes than they realize.

    3. It’s super hard to understand the reasons these people wanted to be heard when they were buried under vulgarity.

  11. To the woman who wrote this I pray our little girls are raied to the standards you have shared,I thank you for your testimony and wished there were more woman in America that share the same beliefs.

    1. Hahahaha exactly. From the very people to shove “tolerance” and “acceptance” and “respect” down everyone’s throats.

    2. Exactly!! Sarah you have summed this entire thing up in one short sentence. And if it truly was a legit march for oppressed women all over the world the message was completely lost because of the INTENTIONAL timing of the March. The media was touting it as a protest against Trump so the cause for oppressed women got no play time. If the organizers really wanted to stand up for women everywhere they would have picked a date that was void of any other national news but no they let hate rule their agenda.

  12. As a mother of eight children, I appreciate your views and am saddened by the women who believe they need to protest our new president. I pray that he becomes a beacon for helping put our nation on the right track after so many years of turning in the wrong direction. We need to do our part to ensure that what he does is not in vain. We need to pray for him and all who support what he is trying to do because the opposition will be great, since those who oppose him have become accustomed to getting their way. Keep writing to encourage those who have the same principles that you have displayed with you words. I pray for more women to stand up and do what is right, even when others treat them as though they are wrong. One person can’t make America great again, but many of us who love God and want His will for our nation can! Thanks, Ruth, for your boldness.

  13. This is a superior example to be used in a high school class to show the definition of passive/aggressive behavior. Why say your sorry when your point is to say that the march was pointless and that you disagree with every aspect. Why say your sorry when you trivialize what millions of women march for and believe. Why say your sorry when your point is to say that marchers were obviously not Christians. I’m sorry for you that in your narrow mindedness you really only felt the necessity to belittle all who marched by your Christian beliefs. I believe the acts of Jesus do not support your sorry statements.

    1. Jesus would never insult people from countries outside the United States, or assault women and degrade those who do not agree with his words. He would not constantly lie and spew rhetoric, refuse to pay people who worked for him, found fake universities, or cheat on two (possibly three) wives. Donald Trump has broken many of the 10 commandments. Is he a christian? I don’t think so.

      1. So, your saying that Donald Trump can’t be saved? Therefore, Jesus didn’t for die for Trumps sins but, he died for yours?

      1. You are wrong. The point of the march was not to accomplish anything in and of the march itself except to inspire and motivate millions of women and supporters. I can guarantee you that many of those women are now far more actively engaged in democracy–calling their representatives, writing letters, canvassing, and organizing–than they were a week ago.

        Meanwhile, are all those who are sitting home and complaining about the march similarly motivated? Maybe, but I doubt it.

  14. I see my post is waiting moderation. Please do not change anything that I wrote. If you find it offensive, don’t post it but certainly do not change my words.

  15. We marched to protect our right to choose what we do with our bodies. It’s sad that you think the female reproductive organs are vulgar. I saw so many beautiful signs at the march that were supporting women’s rights as human rights. I’m sad you chose Madonnas speech as the one to focus on rather than the many other speeches that were uplifting and beautiful. We heard a Muslim woman talk about how she was as American as any of us. We marched to protect the many ethnic groups that the president is threatening to deport. It was a peaceful and beautiful gathering of men, women, old and young all nationalities. I talked to a woman who has a handicapped son. She is worried about losing her health care and also upset about the way trump mocked the handicap reporter. Live in your perfect world if you will but we want all men and women to be treated equal.

    1. I will tell you what is truly sad. No one will ever know, but I truly think Plan Parenthood is behind all of this because they are about to lose a lot of money. My husband is a director of a non-profit ministry that feeds the homeless along with a lot of other things for the homeless. They on average feed 350 – 500 hot meals a day. They run strictly on donations and take no money from the government. You know why they take no money from the government? Because when you take money from the government they have the right to come in and tell you what you can and cannot do. Which means they would have to stop preaching the word of God. They turn no one away. EVERYONE is welcome. Now, Plan Parenthood is a FOR-profit multi BILLION dollar organization that gets money from the government. Do you think anyone from the government can go inside the office of Plan Parenthood and tell them how to run their business? No. I wonder how women would feel if they knew how much Plan Parenthood CEOs were getting paid and we as tax payers are letting them live a life style that most of us only read about. I understand that the government was giving pp about 450 or 550 million dollars to go out of the US and pay for abortions. What if we took that money and helped the woman you talked to who had a son with a disability and other families in the same situation. I have a family member who has a son who is in a big motorized wheel chair and needs a van so he can go with the family. No, instead we as tax payers are going to give a FOR-profit company who’s top employees are getting rich from free money. I’m sure they are like most big companies and all the little employees are not even close to being rich. If Plan Parenthood is truly concerned about women’s health, then let them go to all the multi- million dollar rich women who spoke and get them to donate large sums of money. I’m sure all those rich, famous women would love to whip out their check books and fund Plan ParentHood. After all they have no problem with we as tax payers doing it. As far as women’s health care goes, abortions are the only thing that’s in trouble. Plan Parethood’s CEO has already said they don’t do mamagrams. Ever wonder what else they don’t do, but, let everyone think they do? I do.

  16. I agree that women in other countries do not have the same privileges that we are blessed with here in America. However, we are a country that prides itself on equality and freedom when in actuality women are not treated equally. We cannot change what is happening in other countries due to their own religions, politics, and cultures, but we can change what is happening within our own country and set a new standard for women’s equality in hopes others will follow. America ranks (depending on the category) 45th in women’s equality behind countries such as Iceland, Norway, Finland, Sweden, Rwanda and so on. So, while I agree with you that other countries may be worse off, we are in no way where we need to be. Therefore I thank God for those who were brave enough to march and give voices to the women of America.

    1. Out of curiosity in what ways do you think we are not equal? Aside from a few jobs that still refuse to pay equal salary which, are higher positions held in very few businesses. So, we can vote, we can work, we can file for divorce, we can abort our babies, we can serve in our military (which, I did), we can hold job positions other than nurse and teacher, we have freedom of speech, we can chose to love the same sex, we can buy our own home without a man, we can also, say perverted things to men just as they do, we can be strippers, porn stars, hookers etc… We we can be actresses, we can sing, we can give our babies up, we can be dead beat mom’s, we can drive, we can have our tubes tied etc… we can wear whatever we want, we can cut off our hair or grow it long, we can spend money, we can shoot guns, we can own a gun, we can even use our sexuality to get what we want (not that we should) but, men can’t do that. We can claim rape, when most laugh at men when it happens to them. My friend the list goes on. Please if you can just inform me of what we can’t do. Because I haven’t found anything that I can’t do.

      1. This is an excerpt from the lovely Dina as some examples to think about:
        “You are not equal. Even if you feel like you are. You still make less than a man for doing the same work. You make less as a CEO, as an athlete, as an actress, as a doctor. You make less in government, in the tech industry, in healthcare.
        You still don’t have full rights over your own body. Men are still debating over your uterus. Over your prenatal care. Over your choices.
        You still have to pay taxes for your basic sanitary needs.
        You still have to carry mace when walking alone at night. You still have to prove to the court why you were drunk on the night you were raped. You still have to justify your behavior when a man forces himself on you.
        You still don’t have paid (or even unpaid) maternity leave. You still have to go back to work while your body is broken. While you silently suffer from postpartum depression.
        You still have to fight to breastfeed in public. You still have to prove to other women it’s your right to do so. You still offend others with your breasts.
        You are still objectified. You are still catcalled. You are still sexualized. You are still told you’re too skinny or you’re too fat. You’re still told you’re too old or too young. You’re applauded when you “age gracefully.” You’re still told men age “better.” You’re still told to dress like a lady. You are still judged on your outfit instead of what’s in your head. What brand bag you have still matters more than your college degree.
        You are still being abused by your husband, by your boyfriend. You’re still being murdered by your partners. Being beaten by your soulmate.
        You are still worse off if you are a woman of color, a gay woman, a transgender woman. You are still harassed, belittled, dehumanized.
        Your daughters are still told they are beautiful before they are told they are smart. Your daughters are still told to behave even though “boys will be boys.” Your daughters are still told boys pull hair or pinch them because they like them.
        You are not equal. Your daughters are not equal. You are still systemically oppressed.
        Estonia allows parents to take up to three years of leave, fully paid for the first 435 days. United States has no policy requiring maternity leave.
        Singapore’s women feel safe walking alone at night. American women do not.
        New Zealand’s women have the smallest gender gap in wages, at 5.6%. United States’ pay gap is 20%.
        Iceland has the highest number of women CEOs, at 44%. United States is at 4.0%.
        The United States ranks at 45 for women’s equality. Behind Rwanda, Cuba, Philippines, Jamaica.
        But I get it. You don’t want to admit it. You don’t want to be a victim. You think feminism is a dirty word. You think it’s not classy to fight for equality. You hate the word pussy. Unless of course you use it to call a man who isn’t up to your standard of manhood. You know the type of man that “allows” “his” woman to do whatever she damn well pleases. I get it. You believe feminists are emotional, irrational, unreasonable. Why aren’t women just satisfied with their lives, right? You get what you get and you don’t get upset, right?
        I get it. You want to feel empowered. You don’t want to believe you’re oppressed. Because that would mean you are indeed a “second-class citizen.” You don’t want to feel like one. I get it. But don’t worry. I will walk for you. I will walk for your daughter. And your daughter’s daughter. And maybe you will still believe the world did not change. You will believe you’ve always had the rights you have today. And that’s okay. Because women who actually care and support other women don’t care what you think about them. They care about their future and the future of the women who come after them.
        Open your eyes. Open them wide. Because I’m here to tell you, along with millions of other women that you are not equal. Our equality is an illusion. A feel-good sleight of hand. A trick of the mind. I’m sorry to tell you, but you are not equal. And neither are your daughters.
        But don’t worry. We will walk for you. We will fight for you. We will stand up for you. And one day you will actually be equal, instead of just feeling like you are.”
        ~ Dina Leygerman, 2017

  17. Lucky for you, Ruth, women have been marching for your rights for years. They got the right to vote, even for women who didn’t believe women should vote. They got safer workplaces, even for people who didn’t care about workplace injuries. They got employment rights for women, even women who thought their husbands would take care of them and they didn’t need rights. And they continue to march for you, even though you disown them. Some people might be gracious enough to say “Thank you.”

    1. Yes, Thank you to the women and men who helped us obtain all the rights we have. But, this March wasn’t for rights we don’t have. Not was it over rights that are being taken away, because none are. Until they say they are taking rights away then they can March match for women’s rights. But, this was about President Trump. And him signing the things about abortion etc wasn’t until after the march. And as a woman I am ok with the government not funding abortions. If you don’t want a baby get fixed, we have that right. If you do get pregnant and want an abortion well, pay for it. If you want b.c. pay for it it’s not that expensive. It’s sickening that as women we want women’s rights to do what we want with our bodies but, we don’t want to pay for the consequences of our actions. Instead we want self pitty and for someone else to pay. No body owes us anything the road shouldn’t be paved to make life easy for you. We should own up to our responsibilities and right our own wrongs not beg for handouts. That’s equal rights. We wanna be treated equal well, don’t you think if we do something wrong or make a mistake and want to fix it we should pay for it ourselves? I do. As a woman I don’t want handouts that’s why I work. It’s not my fault if Jane got pregnant and decided she doesn’t want the baby it’s her own fault. Having sex has consequences. If I get an std from having sex should the government pay for my meds etc? No, I am the one who chose to have sex without protection.

  18. Many have commented their approval or dissaproval, and both sides has forgotten a simple fact that this is your Opinion. Whether or not they agree with you is besides the point, just like them you have the right as a Human being to have one. As a Woman in America you have the right to feel and voice your concerns over your own body, just as much as the others here in America. As well as Based on Beliefs you and they have the right in America to choose what is right or wrong!
    My Point is this, for All that “Comment” Before you start VERBALLY Attacking Anybody STOP AND THINK OF YOUR WORDS BEFORE YOU SAY/TYPE THEM! This is ridiculous and PROVES How Childish some are behaving because someone doesn’t agree with your Opinion. If you want to ACT LIKE A 4 YEAR OLD, CLOSE YOUR MOUTH GET YOUR “BALL” AND GO HOME!!! When you want Others to listen to you Stop your TANTRUM!

    To the author, I Agree with you. I May not agree on Everything but that’s alright too! We are both Grown Adult Women in America and this IS What Our Opinions are!!!
    Thank you.

  19. These women who marched, many marched in anger. I asked myself why are they so angry? The words and actions of many of them led me to the conclusion that they are made at each other and themselves. Truely in this country women’s rights are taken away be yourself. Running around with vulgar signs wearing the very part of your body that makes you a women is sending a message that you are just that and nothing else. It has completely tore away any type of self respect. No ones rights should ever be taken away and neither should you take advantage of them and that is what is happening.

  20. Thank you for your comments regarding men. I am a feminist, but do sometimes feel disrespected by the women I care for.

  21. Thank you for the well written article. To those who seem to find fault with it. I would support birthcontrol and other plan programs so long as it did not include Murdering an innocent child in the same plan. So long as abortion is included I would deny it every time. I don’t say that abortion should necessarily be made illegal just that I am not comfortable with it being done on my tax dollars. A child is no more a choice than addiction is. If you take drugs or alcohol you should know well that one of the consequences could be an addiction to it. In the same manner if you choose to have sex with someone you should know that there is the potential of a pregnancy resulting from your choice. The “Choice” has already been made.

  22. I agree with you 100 percent and what you just wrote is how alot of us feel and you was out voice. All this protesting and Marching and very vulgar language is not necessary. I am a rape survivor and I was in a violent domestic marriage but I walked away for the sake of my children. One child was a result of rape and I carried him and loved him because my baby was not at fault in anyway and there was no way I was killing a life because of what happened to me. I have never told him what happened or why he never had his biological father. I did marry a man that loved him as his own even though my husband know everything. When I was raped it was by gun point yet I believe in my right to carry and bare arms. God is who brought me through everything bad I have had happened to me in life and he has blessed me for it all. I am a Conservative and I am not ashamed of it but most of all I am a child of God. These matches which they call Family based I would never want my children nor Grandchildren to see or hear what was said not the actions of these vulgar actions. And I would never take part of anything like these cause giving all I have went through I have class and standards. I do not want to be a part of any actions that make me look like a hate filled foul mouthed woman like I saw in these protest or marches. God Bless all of you and really hope y’all find inner peace and love for yourselves as well as others cause I didn’t see any when y’all marched. When you do find love for yourselves and others but most of all God you will find peace and respect that apparently you all feel you do have. God gives you strength, peace and love but above all he forgives. I have different views than these women who marched and protested have and they definitely was not my voice that day. I actually feel for these people because they don’t know Christ nor his Love. So God Bless them may you all find peace in God.

    1. Sharon, God bless you. Thank you for your honest and poignant response. I cried reading your comment. I look forward to meeting you in heaven one day, my sister in Christ.

  23. Amen Sister!!!! Thank you for giving us voice to those of us feeling the same way and who are too scared to speak in fear of causing turbulence.

  24. Speak for yourself, and yourself only. You embarrass all of us by apologizing for everything to everyone. Molestation entitlement is NOT OK. And that is me speaking for myself.

  25. This was an international march, to start off this comment. This was not just American women. And like someone had mentioned above, focusing only on the women dressed as vaginas and holding up vulgar signs is like seeing a pimple on a beautiful face. This march was for general equality. The injustice other women face in other countries – like Saudi Arabia and China – deserve their own conversation. And like someone else had mentioned above, saying “we have more rights than them” doesn’t mean we are equal and we shouldn’t march for more equality. To repeat their example, it’s like telling someone who is verbally abused “well, there are women who are nearly killed by their physically abusive husbands, so we should be thankful”. No. I do agree that there are women out there who demand respect from men but do not show them the same respect we so desperately feel like we deserve. Men should not be belittled or made to seem like they can’t survive without us, without us allowing them to say the same in reverse to us – because, in reality, we all need each other. Still, coming from a woman who respects everyone – man or woman, straight or gay or anything in between, liberal or conservative, black or white or yellow or brown – I still believe the purpose, the REAL purpose, of this march is to be applauded. This was not just because of Trump, although there are women on both sides who feel otherwise. I’m not ignorant enough to say Trump’s inauguration had no fuel in this march, but those marching solely against our president were marching for the wrong reasons. Please consider this.

  26. HMMMMM – Interesting, and a great use of Free Speech and great for Ms. Meyer to turn to this, her chosen platform for her own point of view and not that of all women as she clearly stated (or as I will state PEOPLE) — Now, please, allow me the same courtesy…

    Didn’t we (well, not me) vote Mr. Trump into the highest office…on the promise to “Make America Great Again”?

    I will ASSUME, though my elders have always taught me otherwise, for purposes of this, my response, that you Ms. Meyer likely voted for our 45th President; and that most of you on this page showing your agreement with Ms. Meyer, acknowledge that AMERICA IS ALREADY GREAT!?

    It appears *you whom are in agreement with Ms. Meyer* are acknowledging that these United States of America have already far surpassed the other countries she mentioned, in spades! And, basically by voting in, to the highest office, President Trump — we will allow our “Great Country” to show that we aren’t the country to look up to???

    I for one, DO, fight everyday of my life (including a great deal of my past life) for ALL HUMAN AND CIVIL RIGHTS. I fought for my ability to marry the man, yes the MAN, I know call MY HUSBAND — after 20 years of a committed and monogamous relationship…longer than many of our heterosexual friends relationships and sanctimonious marriages have lasted.
    (Factual Note: In so far, my relationship, has been longer than any of President Trump’s previous 2 failed marriages, and even this his current marriage to First Lady Melania Trump — this note is intentionally called out for the religious, bible verse citing, call yourself ‘CHRISTIAN’ sycophants).

    Now, allow me to break down Ms. Meyer’s “Apology Letter” Apology by Apology:

    Ms. Meyer: “To the women of China, I’m sorry that we here in America are fighting for the right to abort our children while you yearn for the freedom to have as many children as you wish.”

    ME: No, I am sorry. We, in this country, are NOT fighting for the right to abort our children. We, the great majority, are voting for the right for women to choose what is best for HER. I, as a male — a gay male for that fact; do not feel I have any right to govern over that which I don’t have; or to make claim on ‘person’ to dictate what is best for her. I feel for the women and the men of China whom are limited to the number of children they are allowed. But, I also see a freedom for those women to turn to the US; should they feel so persecuted that they need asylum from their government…or ban together to march on their government; for their rights!

    Ms. Meyer: “Women of Saudi Arabia, I’m sorry we push for equal rights while ignoring the fact that you have none of the freedoms we take for granted. You are told how to dress, forbidden from driving, disallowed to pursue an education, and basically treated as property.”

    ME: We (Those whom marched) are pushing for GLOBAL EQUAL RIGHTS. *PERIOD*. This includes the rights for these Saudi Women, Women in general,Transgendered persons, people of all colors, religions, nationalities, and even that of the . Our marches, our voices were heard globally; but again we marched on the very soil that we have the ability (err, the FREEDOM to do so on) in order to change the government and laws that WE THE PEOPLE can directly effect and impact.

    Ms. Meyer: “To women in underdeveloped countries, I’m sorry that we are pushing for free health care, including abortion on demand, while you struggle to feed your families and find clean water to drink and have limited or no access to good health care.”

    ME: Are you indicating that they should not have free healthcare or that they should have to pay the same prices, we in the United States of America – the wealthiest of countries on the planet pay? Or, are you saying that we should send our jobs there so that they are no longer an underdeveloped country?

    Ms. Meyer: “To those women who are trafficked and abused, I’m sorry that we have ignored your plight also. You are sold into drug and sex trafficking or are victims of domestic abuse. Your rights are the ones we need to be fighting for.”

    ME: I don’t believe we have forgotten them at all. In fact, our ‘lefty ultra liberal media’ has shown light on this many times as an issue, around the globe and in our country. I believe we use tax payer dollars to combat it with salaries paid to the men and women sworn to serve and protect us. We all must be vigilant in this matter. It could be any of us.

    Your statement about men in your article and the apology you give there…while not putting it out here in full quotes; I am simply SMH at you. Trust, when I say, being male, I don’t need your apology. I am sure that the women in my life are not labeling me a sexist, especially not an intolerant one. I simply wish you and every man, woman or child on this planet to be free of labels, that anyone places on us, other than “Human Being” or “Person”.

    Again, your lengthy apology to the children (albeit ‘children’, to me are those under the age of 12 years of age in today’s technological society); should have been directed to everyone and anyone of this great nation or the globe; whom witnessed or endured the violence, from a select group of individuals (less than a fraction) of the over 2.5 million protestors.

    You need not apologize for those actions! Had, parents had the courage to speak to their children and explain this after the fact; an apology would not be necessary. This was, as I fear we are missing in this society today, a proper teaching moment to our youth. A moment to allow the parentally oppressed teachers to educate the children on these current affairs and have an open dialog about right and wrong and what that violence actually achieved. However, I will, undoubtedly agree with you; that the behavior from the violet protestors was uncalled for, reprehensible, and disgraceful of our great nation.

    Finally, to address your last 2 paragraphs where you insight “God” into this apology — I am sorry for you…because you clearly missed the reason these protests happen everyday. We (all of us on this planet) came from a WOMAN. I for one, respect the women in my life; especially the one that gave me life out of LOVE; my mother! I was raised without any one faith, more spiritual I guess one could say. But, I was raised to know and value the difference between right and wrong. I don’t lay claims to where we as a society come from or from whom I draw worth from; other than my own moral and ethical compass – and of course my parents; whom gave me my voice, and love I needed to be a strong, upstanding, and valued member of society.

    We are separated in this world by all the things you spoke about; but often times the reliance on a “God” is more the common enemy because this ‘non-tangible being’ can’t say for him/herself what is/was his/her belief; rather these words we hear and are given to us are transcribed in many versions of books; all of which are authored and penned come from ‘man’ (not meaning gender here) and is interpreted in far too many ways.

    For me, I choose to “apologize” to anyone casting their judgement on any other individual, group of people, animal, creature or spirit with any malice or intent; or that of which is self-righteous or indignant. I do NOT apologize for people whom are clearly seeing their inalienable human rights stripped away daily by a ‘Christian based governance system’ one of which there is no room for in America where “Freedoms” come in many forms – but never without a possible consequence for inciting them. I use my freedoms; and am always aware that there will be an equal and opposite reaction to what I put forth.

    I, personally, appreciate you exercising your freedom of speech Ms. Meyer — and I think I might even understand the spirit / place in which you wrote this post from. But, please don’t apologize with a non-apology for what you feel are the ‘reasons’ that men and women, of many political backgrounds, faiths, colors, creeds, abilities and nationalities marched. They marched to have their voices heard; like yours and mine with this exchange; to be part of something that is important and more than self fulfilling.

    And last, but never least. I wish you no harm, no ill will, and nothing but peace, prosperity, and kindness! You chose to be kind in your post with your point of view; and therefore kindness should only be reflected back to you. We can disagree, isn’t it wonderful, because that is what this country’s foundation is built on.

    1. Thank you for your words and for voicing your opinion as courteously as you do. It is refreshing. I’m interested to see what discussions your comments spark, and I don’t have time at this moment to fully address everything you say, but I do want to make one response. You say the following:
      “I will ASSUME, though my elders have always taught me otherwise, for purposes of this, my response, that you Ms. Meyer likely voted for our 45th President; and that most of you on this page showing your agreement with Ms. Meyer, acknowledge that AMERICA IS ALREADY GREAT!?”
      I’ve seen this assumption before, and I find it very intriguing. It seems many people are obsessed with identifying Trump supporters. I don’t understand why, and I personally would not ask someone else which candidate they voted for, but I’m not ashamed of my vote. I did not vote for Trump. Neither did I vote for Hillary. I voted for a write-in I knew had 0% chance of winning, simply because my conscience would not allow me to vote for either of the top two candidates. That being said, I knew either Hillary or Trump would win, and I respect the office of the presidency. Trump’s former comments about women and his impersonation of a person with a handicap are offensive to me as they are to many. But I also believe a person should not be defined by his or her past. (Look at St. Paul as an example- once a former persecutor of Christians, he was converted and became a missionary to spread the news of Jesus and even became the author of many New Testament books). I pray that President Trump will repent of his errors and that his administration is marked by wisdom and grace.

  27. Lost the moral high ground when you were elected a vulgar man into the office of the presidency . Your marginalization of the women marching is clearly part of your religious take on the world and thank God I don’t worship your God .

    1. “Your marginalization of the women marching is clearly part of your religious take on the world and thank God I don’t worship your God.”
      In no way am I trying to marginalize anyone. And I’m sorry you don’t worship my God, because I know from personal experience the peace that comes from believing in Jesus. I know that I am a sinner. Because of this, I know I deserve punishment from a just and holy God. But God wasn’t content to leave it at that. He sent Jesus to this earth, who lived the perfect life I could never live. Jesus died on the cross for my sins and the sins of everyone in the world. He took my punishment. And when He rose from the dead three days later, He proved that He has power even over death. Death is not the end. There’s more to come. And I know that because of Jesus I will spend eternity in heaven with Him. I can’t think of better news than that!

  28. I hold a very different political viewpoint from the author and most of the commentators on this blog; I actually disagree pretty strongly with many of the views and arguments laid out. However, I must admit that I was very positively surprised, and overall very happy, with the level of discourse regarding liberal positions. You guys are very polite and courteous, and the overall tone is very respectful.

    Unfortunately, it is much more common to see communication full of hate and anger. I know I see this from the right, and I’m sure you guys see it from the left. That is a real shame – it just riles people up and hampers dialogue and exchange of ideas. You guys provide a model of how we should talk to each other instead.

    So, I just want to say: thank you! Please please please keep it up – if enough of us do it, maybe we can influence the rest and drive our national dialogue away from hate and anger and toward respect and compassion. How great would that be?

  29. The march is about so much more than what is on the surface. But the fact that you belittle problems women have in America because others have it worse in other countries is so sad to me. For example, a family member of mine dies and I move past it really quickly but you feel so saddened it takes you months to get through it. Does that mean we were not both sad about it? Of course, but everyone deals with things differently and you can’t justify people’s problems. On the fact that women in America have equal rights to men, we do not. We do not have the same pay rate as men. We do not have the same opportunities as men do. Let’s say a man and I apply for the same position we both have the qualifications and we both get hired, they pay him $45,000 a year while I only get $25,000 a year. How is that fair? But you don’t see this or understand it because you have something called privileged. One day when you come to realize this it will hit you like a ton of bricks. I want to able to raise my children where they have equal opportunity. As little girls we are taught to wait for the prince in shining armor to come and rescue us girls but what comes after that happily ever after? Women have to make sure the house is clean, cook and take of the children and work an 8-5 job while men have to have a good paying job, how is that equal? What happens to most mothers if the man leaves? Or what about if a woman gets raped and becomes impregnated or in the instance of incest? Women are also out there fighting for men such as fathers who dont get equal rights in divorce You live in a thought process of romanticizing and thinking of a fantasy. Women are strong, beautiful and powerful.

    1. “But you don’t see this or understand it because you have something called privileged.”
      Some of the other points you mention in your response I have already addressed to other commenters. But I’ve seen your comment about privilege before in other people’s responses as well. I’m not sure why people assume I am “privileged.” Someone made reference to me in my mansion. As a matter of fact, for the majority of our marriage, my husband and I have fallen under federal poverty standards. I’ve been on WIC and under state health plans before. Please don’t assume anything about my economic status based on one blog. That being said, I am not looking for sympathy. I have never considered myself poor. My husband and I are wise with our money and spend within our limits and we are blessed to be able to provide for our family. I am thankful for this. But I sense as well an underlying implication that “privileged” people cannot voice their opinion because they cannot truly understand. Does that mean men shouldn’t have been allowed to march because they don’t know what it’s like to be a woman? Does that mean none of us should push for rights in other countries because we haven’t experienced their own life?

      1. You are not understanding what the term “white privilege” means. It’s the inherent social benefits your skin color affords you from birth. In some cases Intersectionality also applies. And it doesn’t mean being rich. Please read more about it.
        ❤️

  30. You Are Not Equal. I’m Sorry.
    A post is making rounds on social media, in response to the Women’s March on Saturday, January 21, 2017. It starts with “I am not a “disgrace to women” because I don’t support the women’s march. I do not feel I am a “second class citizen” because I am a woman….”
    This is my response to that post.
    Say Thank You
    Say thank you. Say thank you to the women who gave you a voice. Say thank you to the women who were arrested and imprisoned and beaten and gassed for you to have a voice. Say thank you to the women who refused to back down, to the women who fought tirelessly to give you a voice. Say thank you to the women who put their lives on hold, who –lucky for you — did not have “better things to do” than to march and protest and rally for your voice. So you don’t feel like a “second class citizen.” So you get to feel “equal.”
    Thank Susan B. Anthony and Alice Paul for your right to vote.
    Thank Elizabeth Stanton for your right to work.
    Thank Maud Wood Park for your prenatal care and your identity outside of your husband.
    Thank Rose Schneiderman for your humane working conditions.
    Thank Eleanor Roosevelt and Molly Dewson for your ability to work in politics and affect policy.
    Thank Margaret Sanger for your legal birth control.
    Thank Carol Downer for your reproductive healthcare rights.
    Thank Margaret Fuller for your equal education.
    Thank Ruth Bader Ginsburg, Shannon Turner, Gloria Steinem, Zelda Kingoff Nordlinger, Rosa Parks, Angela Davis, Malika Saada Saar, Wagatwe Wanjuki, Ida B. Wells, Malala Yousafzai. Thank your mother, your grandmother, your great-grandmother who did not have half of the rights you have now.
    You can make your own choices, speak and be heard, vote, work, control your body, defend yourself, defend your family, because of the women who marched. You did nothing to earn those rights. You were born into those rights. You did nothing, but you reap the benefits of women, strong women, women who fought misogyny and pushed through patriarchy and fought for you. And you sit on your pedestal, a pedestal you are fortunate enough to have, and type. A keyboard warrior. A fighter for complacency. An acceptor of what you were given. A denier of facts. Wrapped up in your delusion of equality.
    You are not equal. Even if you feel like you are. You still make less than a man for doing the same work. You make less as a CEO, as an athlete, as an actress, as a doctor. You make less in government, in the tech industry, in healthcare.
    You still don’t have full rights over your own body. Men are still debating over your uterus. Over your prenatal care. Over your choices.
    You still have to pay taxes for your basic sanitary needs.
    You still have to carry mace when walking alone at night. You still have to prove to the court why you were drunk on the night you were raped. You still have to justify your behavior when a man forces himself on you.
    You still don’t have paid (or even unpaid) maternity leave. You still have to go back to work while your body is broken. While you silently suffer from postpartum depression.
    You still have to fight to breastfeed in public. You still have to prove to other women it’s your right to do so. You still offend others with your breasts.
    You are still objectified. You are still catcalled. You are still sexualized. You are still told you’re too skinny or you’re too fat. You’re still told you’re too old or too young. You’re applauded when you “age gracefully.” You’re still told men age “better.” You’re still told to dress like a lady. You are still judged on your outfit instead of what’s in your head. What brand bag you have still matters more than your college degree.
    You are still being abused by your husband, by your boyfriend. You’re still being murdered by your partners. Being beaten by your soulmate.
    You are still worse off if you are a woman of color, a gay woman, a transgender woman. You are still harassed, belittled, dehumanized.
    Your daughters are still told they are beautiful before they are told they are smart. Your daughters are still told to behave even though “boys will be boys.” Your daughters are still told boys pull hair or pinch them because they like them.
    You are not equal. Your daughters are not equal. You are still systemically oppressed.
    Estonia allows parents to take up to three years of leave, fully paid for the first 435 days. United States has no policy requiring maternity leave.
    Singapore’s women feel safe walking alone at night. American women do not.
    New Zealand’s women have the smallest gender gap in wages, at 5.6%. United States’ pay gap is 20%.
    Iceland has the highest number of women CEOs, at 44%. United States is at 4.0%.
    The United States ranks at 45 for women’s equality. Behind Rwanda, Cuba, Philippines, Jamaica.
    But I get it. You don’t want to admit it. You don’t want to be a victim. You think feminism is a dirty word. You think it’s not classy to fight for equality. You hate the word pussy. Unless of course you use it to call a man who isn’t up to your standard of manhood. You know the type of man that “allows” “his” woman to do whatever she damn well pleases. I get it. You believe feminists are emotional, irrational, unreasonable. Why aren’t women just satisfied with their lives, right? You get what you get and you don’t get upset, right?
    I get it. You want to feel empowered. You don’t want to believe you’re oppressed. Because that would mean you are indeed a “second-class citizen.” You don’t want to feel like one. I get it. But don’t worry. I will walk for you. I will walk for your daughter. And your daughter’s daughter. And maybe you will still believe the world did not change. You will believe you’ve always had the rights you have today. And that’s okay. Because women who actually care and support other women don’t care what you think about them. They care about their future and the future of the women who come after them.
    Open your eyes. Open them wide. Because I’m here to tell you, along with millions of other women that you are not equal. Our equality is an illusion. A feel-good sleight of hand. A trick of the mind. I’m sorry to tell you, but you are not equal. And neither are your daughters.
    But don’t worry. We will walk for you. We will fight for you. We will stand up for you. And one day you will actually be equal, instead of just feeling like you are.
    ~ Dina Leygerman, 2017

    1. THANK GOD!! I voice of sanity among the sanctimony!!!!! The white privilege here knows no bounds. This is what I was trying to touch on but you have put now so poignantly. There is no arguing or alternative facts about our history as women in this country and the real struggles that have been overcome and have yet to be ( oh did many of you forget about minorities-people of color?Can you even relate to them?) Much of which YES! have been achieved through march and peaceful demonstration.

      1. “The white privilege here knows no bounds.”
        You are not the first commenter to make this sort of statement, but I find it fascinating that bringing race into the discussion is okay as long as it’s white people we’re talking about. Another responder told me, “You, a white woman, will always have it better.” Yet another referred to me as a token white privileged Christian. Why does anyone assume that because I’m white I was born in the lap of luxury? And does it matter one way or the other? I was born into a family that was neither poor nor rich. My parents worked for their money and taught me how to live within my means. My husband and I follow suit. Does that mean we’re privileged or consider ourselves superior or feel entitled? Certainly not! When did we, as a society that claims to fight racial profiling and prejudice, start dismissing the views of white people because they’re “privileged?” I find this very disingenuous. Is not Hillary Clinton what many would consider a “privileged white woman?” Are not many of the speakers from the Women’s Marches “privileged white women?” I won’t bother delving into Madonna or Ashley Judd, but what about, say, Former Texas Senator Wendy Davis, who spoke at the Austin March? Why are they not dismissed as privileged white women? It is only because I do not agree one hundred percent with the agenda here that I am called out for my race. It is because I dare to take a stand for my belief in Christ that I am dismissed as a “religious wingnut.” One person told me flat out that she could not respect my views because I am a Christian. Again, in a culture that pushes religious tolerance, this is hypocritical. Am I offended? A bit, maybe, but I’m more saddened than anything. If we are to disagree, let it be because of the stance we take for or against issues, but let us not dismiss one another based on race, economic status, or religion.

      2. For the record. I am a white woman, recognizing white privilege within a group of people. I get frustrated and I apologize for coming off rude. I think it’s an important first step for everyone in understanding the struggles of certain groups and why there is a need for certain changes(marches)even if they don’t affect you/us directly, and yes even in the US. Peace and love

  31. I like it. I’m still not clear though on what rights women do not have in America today? I’ve worked with women my entire professional career (at levels equal, above, and below). I don’t remember seeing them mistreated or not having the same opportunities that I have had.

  32. Just because women are marching for one thing doesn’t mean they don’t also do things to support these other things. This is like saying we can’t fight AIDS in America because millions of people are dying of other diseases and starvation in Africa.

    It’s also extremely condescending and hateful. You claim to preach the truth. But the Truth is Jesus, and Jesus ate with tax collectors and sinners.

    Oh, and I don’t know if you just listen to a lot of lying media, or if you yourself lied, but none of what you described was the purpose of the march. This is an anti-Trump march. Even if you think Clinton was worse, Trump was still the “lesser of two evils.” He’s still evil. You were free to come to as long as you were fighting Trump and not attacking people for protesting. If you wanted to do that, you should have made a counterprotest.

    Our country is headed for some dark times. The last thing we need is all this hatred and contempt for each other. We are going to have to work together. We elected a man who disagrees with everything Jesus teaches. Our only hope is God’s own hands delivering us from our problems, not a hateful little man who wants to hurt everyone who ever disagrees with him.

    1. WE’VE been in 8 very dark years, looking forward to what someone else will do and believe in giving people a chance to prove themselves! And no I didn’t vote for Trump I was in a rehab facility and not able to vote.

  33. Yes, I completely agree. There are indeed women all over the world in life threatening and awful conditions. However, in no way is this an argument against why women shouldn’t have marched. Just because you are uniting for one cause, does not mean that you are ignoring the others. Women’s rights and human rights in general is a GLOBAL issue. Yes, the issues in the US might seem trivial to the women’s issues in other countries, but that doesn’t mean they still are not issues. And yes, I don’t agree with abortion either, and should I be in that situation, I would never get one. Because that is what I believe in. But as a woman, that’s my choice. Definitely one that a MAN should not be making for me. And not one I should be enforcing on others because of my beliefs.

  34. Please do not feel the need to apologize to other countries or the women in them on behalf of any of my family & friends that marched or myself who fully supported them and would have been there had the situation allowed. A women’s march for awareness here does nothing to belittle, demean, or negate deplorable situations in other countries that need awareness. Simply put, it perturbs me that you would even imply such. Obviously you have no way of knowing, but there are plenty of Marchers that day that I personally know who give of themselves in numerous ways in order to help those in need in other countries – again, you have no way to know that but you shouldn’t assume your fellow American women who marched are not aware of such plights nor should you assume they do not actively aid them.

    Your tone and words are exceedingly judgmental. I applaud you speaking your mind or stating your opinion but when your opinion ceases to be an opinion when you make false assumptions or statements. Judgemental and false statements nullify your message.

  35. I m sorry. But who told you that in China we can have as many children as we want? I can understand your pride of being an American, but please do not show off your pride by comparing with other countries.

  36. That is your opinion but lots of women suffered for you to be able to voice your opinion. I will stand up for my rights, the rights of my daughter, and for women around the word.

  37. Fighting for equal rights in the US does not preclude or diminish the need to support equal rights around the world.

    Here’s an analogy: would you refuse to seek treatment if you broke your wrist, because somebody else down the street broke their leg? Wouldn’t it be better to first get your own wrist treated, and then use it to help someone else? Or don’t- but failing to remedy problems at home because those problems may be worse elsewhere makes no sense.

    Everyone is entitled to do good in the world however they see fit. Certainly not everyone needs to be an activist, and we most certainly don’t need to all agree on what the important issues are. But diminishing others’ desire to do good in their own country seems short-sighted and frankly, plain old mean.

    Secondly, the Trump Administration’s “America First” agenda would actually seem to encourage focus on domestic issues, regardless of what human rights violations may be occurring around the world. I don’t know who you voted for, but I do think it’s interesting that the tenor of this article (we should be focusing on those in other countries in greater need) lies in direct opposition of the administration many were protesting. In fact, I’d bet that many marchers would agree that we should be seeking to fight injustice wherever it occurs. But again, that doesn’t mean we don’t fight it at home, as well.

    My understanding was that Jesus preached compassion and helping those in need- regardless of borders or boundaries. You have the right to march, or not march.

    However, this article comes across as sarcastic and self-righteous. Clearly it is not a true “apology.” How is this in line at all with what Jesus would have said or done?

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